People come to therapy for lots of different reasons
Sometimes they know they need to change something and they need some help to make those changes. Other people may know that what they're currently doing isn't working but aren't sure they are ready to change.
Depending on your goals, we may focus on:
Acquiring new coping skills and incorporating already successful coping strategies into other parts of your life
Enhancing interpersonal communication
Improving self-esteem and an overall sense of well-being
Increasing motivation and solution solving abilities
Decreasing anxiety, depression and other unwanted emotional states
Enhancing coping regarding aging, grief, loss and change of life
Modifying long-standing patterns that no longer work for you
I believe that everyone has strong innate coping skills and I usually recommend using that as the foundation of our work together.
Many life transitions, even good ones, are filled with some sadness, anxiety, fear, or sudden and often intense shifts in feelings. They involve losses of people, places, roles and a sense of where you fit in the world. A life transition can be positive or negative, planned or unexpected. Some are very dramatic, such as accidents, death, divorce, job loss or a serious illness. Other life transitions are "happy" events like marriage, moving in with a significant other, a new job, moving to a new city, starting school or having a child. Even though these events are typically planned and anticipated, they can stir up a lot of emotional feelings and worry.
Interpersonal relationships can be great sources of strength, but can also be great sources of stress. We all share a fundamental need for closeness and security, but very few of us had great models for how to develop and sustain relationships with others, let alone how to deal with the inevitable conflicts that arise in those relationships.
I am skilled, knowledgeable and experienced at helping people learn how to resolve conflicts and strengthen their relationships.
Drugs & Alcohol
There are many reasons why people use drugs and alcohol. People start using drugs or alcohol for good reasons: to fit in, to socialize, to have fun, to relax, to ease anxiety or to self-medicate for depression, anxiety or the lingering effects of trauma. Sometimes drug or alcohol use can begin to feel out of control. Even if it doesn't feel out of control, it may be something you'd like to change, reduce, quit or learn to use in a less harmful and more healthful way.
I help people change their relationships to drugs and alcohol in non-shaming ways.
When people experience trauma or negative life events, they may relate to themselves or others in ways that feel "stuck" or repetitious. EMDR helps move you out of these negative mental patterns and into a more healthy way of functioning.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a proven and well-researched therapeutic technique that combines talking and structured eye movement that is similar to what occurs naturally during dreaming or REM (rapid eye movement). You are conscious during the entire session.
LGBTQ+
For many LGBTQ+ people, life can be filled with feelings of self-judgment, confusion, and either subtle or overt messages that part of you is wrong or bad. Many LGBTQ+ people are reacting to the bullying that happened to them as children and, as a result, shy away from intimacy, trust, and vulnerability. Others are often reacting to the very real, current day attacks on gay and lesbian individuals and couples. Together we’ll help you find community, work through any lingering hurts and feel more safe and secure within yourself and in relationships with others.